Define Your Ideal Partner and Stay Authentic

in my opinion i just think that you just need to put in the work to get what you want you don't need to go look for it yeah no not really like but you have to know what you want first like when you go buy a car you fire up your phone you go on marketplace or auto trade or whatever you put in the kind of car that you want like you know that you want a specific kind of car if it's a corvette you type in your range of corvette like okay maybe you don't care what color it is you're gonna see what you like but you have a general idea of what it is you want you should build that person in your head before you ever even do anything like what do they look like what do they do what do they do with you like do they do the stuff you do you know how tall are they what color is their hair like think about all these things and put it together in your head and then whenever something blips on your radar that kind of fits that you're like oh that that looks like something that could fit this let's see how that goes that's kind of what happened to me it's very funny nothing you're gonna go more in depth no i'll leave it i'll leave that at that but yeah you gotta know you gotta know what it is you're looking for if you're gonna find what you're looking for if you go to the toolbox you say i need a socket okay well what socket you got you gotta you gotta know what you want before you can find it i think that being passionate about anything is a huge draw you can't filter yourself for people you can't bend in that in that phase because if you bend from who you really are and you modify what you really want to do during the phase of getting to know someone they're not getting to know you they're getting to know this form of yourself that you've filtered and crafted to suit them and that'll wear off on some point it'll wear off on you you won't do it anymore or they're going to wear off on them because you won't be able to you know keep that facade all the time and that was kind of something for me is like i'm perfectly fine being by myself for the next 10 years if i have to i'm going to do what i'm going to do and if somebody cannot like participate in that then that's fine because somebody will that was my thought and then she just kind of came out of nowhere and now lives the same ridiculous lifestyle that i do and keeps up with it and adds to it so there you go but i didn't filter myself when like we were getting to know each other i'm like this is who i am this is what i…